Be Selfish

Being let down by someone you care deeply for is probably one of the hardest things to experience. We go about life desperately trying to please others. We want to become what our parents expect of us. We want to conform to the demeanor of different social groups in order to fit in. We will do anything for someone we are in love with.

Someone can knock you down a million times yet you still let them pick you up. Someone can break your heart constantly yet you will still let them tape back the pieces every time.

I'm sympathetic to a fault. I forgive too easily and I forget too often. I was raised to be understanding of another's situation. I was taught to be open and kind to everyone, because you never know what hardships a person might be going through. This kind of mentality, although well intended, sometimes subjects me to being another person's punching bag. I have a hard time standing up for myself which causes me to become passive and internalize my troubles. As extroverted as I may seem, I a lot of the times use it as a facade. It's easier to appear untroubled and goofy than anything serious.

Through our life experiences, we learn a ton about ourselves. I don't want to seem as though I blame myself for how others have mistreated me. I'm simply doing some self-reflection and offering some advice.

Selfishness has a negative connotation, but sometimes being selfish is extremely necessary. At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you. Your health (mental and physical) needs to be your #1 priority.

And as always, have a wonderful evening.